How are gated communities? Would you recommend them?

We've usually lived in the country, and are looking to move to a relatively large city suburb.

We're not sure about gated communities, but are interested in them.

Pro:

-Security, or the illusion of it

-Communal ammenities like pools, golf course, clubhouse, weight room, playgrounds

-The largest pro by far that I've seen is kids running free with their friends. My kids would absolutely love this.

Cons:

-HOAs will keep it clean etc, but I think it may feel oppressive with them having power, especially seniors with too much time on their hands

-Extra expense

-Lack of culture, diversity. Really very cookie cutter

Has anyone lived in a gated community? I'd love to get your opinion.