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Rampant sexism in buying process from realtors. Anyone else experience this?

I've experienced several instances where I felt a realtor was mistreating me based on my sex, since starting to look for a house. 1. The 1st house I looked at got a Zillow realtor to accompany me. My boyfriend came along and the realtor would physically block me from the entrance to rooms my bf was in. Not intentionally, but he seemed like he felt it wasn't important to allow me in. Then he would engage my bf about his work and finances and ignore me. My bf is not contributing to the purchase.

  1. I then stopped working with this realtor and reached out to about 30 different realtors about houses. About 60% returned calls saying the house was going under contract soon, 2% set me up with a tour, and the other 38% ignored me outright.

  2. One of the seller realtors i reached out to called me back and told me I should get my own agent bc I can't do it by myself for the long haul. She said I was doing everything right. She said I was "like a gnat in her face" and that's what I'd want from my own agent. So, I hired my own agent and told him I already did most of the leg work and reached out to virtually everywhere I wanted to see. But one of my most appealing houses, the realtor wouldn't call me back after 4 attempts to contact. I tried calling, email, text. Nothing. So, he got me in to see this house. The realtor answered him. I ended up offering on this house. My offer was the highest, but 2nd to an all cash offer that waived inspection.

  3. This is the one that really got me. After my own agent quit me and asked me why I even hired him because I made him feel like a 3rd limb, I went it alone again. A seller realtor reached out to me, saying her deal fell through and asked if I could come same day to see the house. I told her I could come alone, but if next day would be better b/c then my bf could come with me. She told me "no, all interested parties need to come or don't bother". I informed her that I am the interested party and will be the only one making a purchase, though I'd prefer if my bf could come, I'd come alone if she could only accommodate today. She then told me she'd try to accommodate me today. I didn't hear from her for hours, so I reached out to confirm the appointment. She said she could accommodate me if my agent or bf came. I had to have my former agent call her to tell her i'm working alone. I told her we'd both be there. At the tour, she asked him what he did for a living. He mentioned in casual conversation that he would be selling his own house in a few months. She then assumed that we'd be waiting on the sale of his house to make a purchase. I told her AGAIN that he is not part of this transaction. She then confusedly asked me whether I had the down payment in the bank already. I said, ofc where else would it be?

My boyfriend is now offering to make calls for me and say that he is my secretary.

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