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My dad wants to sell our house and leave mom and I broke.

Hi there, not even sure if this is the right place to ask but I'm desperate. All this context is important:

I live in california, and my parents while they've been separated for years they are still legally married. My dad was emotionally abusive and left maybe 9 ish years ago, leaving mom and I still living in the family home. He has always been controlling and he wants to sell the house so he can move out of state. But it's not that simple. He doesn't plan on sharing any of the money, his idea of being nice is getting us a rundown mobile home hours away from my job (not even willing to fork over the amount of money it would be if we wanted to use it for something else.)

My dad is in his sixties and can't hold down a job because he's too proud to work a minimum wage job and try to build something higher, there's also the fact he can't handle working for a woman. 💀

In his absence my mom got a job to support us but lost it during covid. I have since been working but now she is disabled so I really feel her only options would be to do something remotely with a very limited education. In the time he's been gone we have paid all the bills, minus property taxes, and made improvements to the house (such as a long overdue new roof.)

If he sells the house that's one thing, I can't tell him what to do and it would be wrong for me to expect him to do nothing and keep living in a shitty apartment. But is there any way we can get some of the money from it's sale legally? Mom met with a lawyer once and he said she could be entitled to a quarter of its profits which would be able to get us somewhere out of state to live or enough for a chunky payment for a house local.

I've even offered to get into a mortgage to 'buy' the house from him so we couldn't have to move, but he didn't even entertain the idea.

Any advice is appreciated as i am very stressed and uninformed

Edit: i see i have a lot of research to do. Thank you all

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