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I need to leave an abusive partner but I’m on the lease. (LONG READ)

Backstory me (f) and my boyfriend (both 25) of about four years just moved to Michigan from Illinois becuase my boyfriend got a job out here for being a paramedic and I currently am out of a job. (In school for veterinary technician and currently looking for one). My mother is paying about $1k in a $1.4(ish) apartment because she wanted to support me. (Im not sure if his parent know or not) I should note that we’ve been out here for about a month but recently he’s put his hands on me to scare me. He hasn’t left marks or bruises but he has charged at me and gave me looks that I know I should avoid; so all and all he hasn’t left any “evidence” for my landlord to see. I should have known before coming here that nothing was going to change (my fault). As a first time renter by myself (my name is on the lease signed) and having my family pay for majority of it but also his family being more “financially set” than mine (my mom is a single mother from actual south side Chicago and his parent from a suburb city and owning their own business) I’m scared they’re going to come after us. I don’t want my mom to financially ruin from this because she just got out of Bankruptcy about 2 years ago and her credit will not handle this. I brought this onto myself I understand that but I need any help. Any suggestions. Anything. I’ve been sleeping on a couch for as long as we’ve been here. My mom will be there for me if it will financially set her back (I have been talking to her but we are both not knowing what to do) but we are looking for the “easiest” way to get me home and cost affective on her if possible. I’m sorry if my grammar is bad right now it is currently 1:55 AM and I’m super emotional. Thank you for anyone and everyone who gives advice.

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