Hey guys, I need advice. This is going to be a loaded post but I’ll try to condense.
My mom has terrible credit, like 520 at best. Her, her boyfriend and my 21 year old brother live in a trailer that should be condemned. They rent it now and live in the living room, the main bedroom has holes in the floor and is just not livable. It’s disgusting and it kills me to know she lives like that. She’s chronically depressed and I see her slipping away.
Her living conditions are bad for two main reasons. 1) money, she has a 42k salary 2) the BIG reason is her boyfriend. He is a registered sex offender; non violent. Before passing judgement, please know this guy was abused as a child and was in foster care - passed around house to house before getting charged at 18 and spending several years doing petty crimes and just ruining his life. I truly believe his environment and family set him up for a shit life. With that said, he is a big burden. He is my mom’s care taker, he takes great care of her and my brother who has special needs. He is dependent on her, as she is him. In a way, he is “stuck” with her and she him. It is what it is, I’ve spent 5 years trying to think of ways to help and we just hit way after wall. The sex offense charges are stuck with him at least another 10 years before we can petition the court for removal from the registry.
With that said, she can’t get government or low income housing. Even if should could afford a place to live, a background check on him would disqualify them so they literally are in the slums.
Therefore, I want to help out my mom and brother and get a mortgage. I do fairly well by myself, 150k and I rent for 1800 a month. I have no intention of paying their mortgage, but I do want to get the loan under me and have them pay it. That would take care of the rental/background check issues and bad credit. However, I don’t want to loose out on my chance to buy a home in the next two-three years.
I don’t think she could be on the mortgage, I think it would hurt because of her credit but I don’t want to have it under me forever. My big fear is that I help her out and miss out on opportunities for myself like the first time home buyer loan for myself or I can’t get a loan because I would already have this loan for her? I’m just so lost and honestly overwhelmed dealing with her drama. It’s weighed me down and I can’t think straight.
Looking for advice on how to approach this. Do I try to be a co-signer? Do I just do a primary residence loan and “live” there for one year and somehow transfer the mortgage to her? Do I “live” there a year and then turn this into a legit rental and get passive income from her? What is the best approach to help in the jump start this for her but also save myself opportunities within the next two years? Of course I don’t actually want to live there, I’ll be renting my apt as I have been.
As far as a house goes, anything at all is better than her environment. I’m thinking 150k or less. She lives in a rural area and there are homes these that I think are very nice considering the circumstances.
Thank you for any advice you have in advance!!
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