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Communication with building co-owner who is toxic

I own a flat in California that is in a building with several other flats and an office belonging to a family member who is very toxic and difficult to deal with. He owns about 2/3 of the building and I own 1/3 (based on the paperwork, but really, I just own my flat inside the building and he owns everything else).

I have minimal contact with this person now because of his behavior and the fact that it is unsafe for me to deal with him (no threat of violence, just mainly emotional and financial abuse). For building expenses, I instructed him to go to another family member who is basically holding money that he refuses to give me (long story I won't get into, not in the US so I have no legal rights over it). The only contact I have with him is if I need to convey a message to him regarding something with my flat that might affect his tenants which comes in the form of a one-way email (I email him to notify him but he has no communication with me - if he needs to convey a message or update to me, he does it through my property manager).

I know this is not an ideal situation by any means but I will not open further communication with him (as I said, it's not safe for my mental health). So I'm looking to find another way to communicate with him regarding any building matters that is more professional than what I'm doing (in case there are any legal issues down the line). I'm thinking maybe of hiring someone to just be a go-between to convey information (send the emails, receive any replies, pass on information necessary to me but also field information).

Any suggestions on who might do something like this? A property lawyer or someone similar? I don't think just hiring a virtual assistant would do it since I prefer it to be someone more "official" so he gets the message that his BS isn't going to work with me anymore.

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