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Advice and empathy for a remorseful first time homeowner

This past summer I purchased my first house. I was able to do this because I qualified for a grant to go towards my down payment but when the money for this grant was gone, it was gone. This restraint plus the very hot housing market pressured me to find a house and make an offer because houses were lasting maybe a week before they were sold. I had an ideal neighborhood but it was too expensive so I bought in an adjacent "up and coming" neighborhood.

My first major disappointment was closing itself. It is a long story but basically the seller showed up, as I was moving into my house, with the police accusing me of breaking into my own house.(He had refused to give me the keys despite "ownership upon closing" and me being a 100% in the right.) Having the seller and his agent (yes his agent) yelling at me and having to explain my right to police was extremely stressful and made me suspicious of everything he had done to the house.

I had a thorough inspection done and knew there were major issues like lead paint on the siding. My first month my neighbors' aggressive dog broke through their fence and attacked my puppy. I put up a very sturdy fence which cost 3k then sewage backed up in my basement and I had to make a 10k repair to the plumbing. I did not have this money on hand so am now paying down a loan with a 8% interest as quickly as I can. One item "fixed" before closing was flagged as being not to code by my plumber. Now I am fighting with the other plumbing company to redo the work properly. I still have the lead paint exterior to deal with and I just can't shake the feeling that I have made a horrible mistake. I was told the neighborhood was "up and coming" and several houses were sold here last summer. The house next to me was flipped and sold but I worry that this area won't continue to appreciate. I also feel like I am dumping all my money into this house when the point was to have affordable living while building equity. Any advice or empathy is appreciated. The stress of this is affecting my sleep.

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